

“God, how we get our fingers in each other's clay. That's friendship, each playing the potter to see what shapes we can make of each other.” -Ray Bradbury


As commercial as this love celebration is, I still like the idea of it. One blog friend has written at length about what a lame idea Valentine's day is. My favorite part about the article - it's from a woman's perspective. Although I agree that the holiday really has become more of a marketing campaign to fill the gap for Hallmark cards to make it from Christmas until Easters, it's nice to have a day that celebrates just the idea of love. Is that so gay that I just wrote that line? While I've celebrated Valentine's often, a lot of times I've just planned on it being a day other than the actual day of the 14th, which has helped diffuse the cost of overpriced flowers and overbooked restaurants. Anyway, that's all I'm going to say about that.The most intriguing at-bat of 2007 is leaking into 2008. You can sense it by the way a 25-year-old wannabe struts through his February workouts. You can sense it by the way a 40-year-old shoulder shrugs at the line of questioning. You can sense it by the way a Hall of Famer is uncomfortably stuck in the middle. And you can sense it by the way a filthy rich man stares into space.
On Sept. 29, 2007, Tony Gwynn Jr., for all practical purposes, knocked Tony Gwynn Sr.'s team out of the playoffs. But it's much crueler than that. He did it with two outs and two strikes in the bottom of the ninth -- against his Uncle Trevor. He did it with
the champagne on ice and the Colorado Rockies on life support. He did it against the franchise that clothed and fed him and against a fan base that, 81 days a year, walks down Tony Gwynn Drive to the turnstiles. He did it as the only son of San Diego's favorite son. And this is how he pays everyone back?
But to understand Sept. 29, 2007, you need to scoot back one day to Sept. 28...
The anti-military activists who had worked with the City of Berkley to first pass the anti-Marine resolution burned multiple U.S. flags that day. What was most offensive is that they were flags that they had stolen from Move America Forward's booths. Apparently there's a shortage of U.S. flags left to burn in Berkeley, CA. In one instance their pyrotechnics got so carried away that they burned down a sign for "Peace Wall" while trying to burn a U.S. flag.
I'm sure most of you don't care, but the Mavericks just got Jason Kidd today for basically half of their roster. This is the 3rd blockbuster trade in as many weeks, and I think they just keep on declining since the Lakers picked up Gasol. I think the Suns will miss Marion more than they think, and the Mavericks aren't going to be able to ride Kidd as far as they would like. And on top of all that, the Celtics made a huge deal over the summer to go from being the worst in the league to among the best. The playoffs this summer are going to be the best ever.One of the first major magazine pieces that the Trunk and I wrote was called "The Global Warming Hoax." It appeared, as I recall, in 1992 and is not available anywhere on the web. I don't recall what led us to start studying the issue, but we were astonished to find that a theory that commanded such universal political allegiance, even then, had so little scientific support.
The data are too voluminous to reproduce here, but our argument was basically along these lines: 1) The earth's temperatures today are not historically out of line. The earth was warmer a thousand years ago than it is today, and as recently as the 1970's falling temperatures were causing environmentalists (in some cases, the same ones who now push global warming) to warn against a coming ice age--caused, of course, by man's activities. 2) The evidence for global warming consists entirely of computer models. Those models, however, are known to be wrong, since they do not accurately account for past temperatures. (This fact is so elementary that the success of environmentalists in obscuring it is remarkable.) 3) Average emperatures on earth never stand still; they are always either rising or falling. The most obvious potential cause for these fluctuations is variation in the amount of energy emitted by the sun. And, indeed, recent research has shown that variations in solar energy output correspond closely with temperature fluctuations on earth.
To my dear, dear Caitlin Reid...Happy Birthday, 10 days late. I wished it in person and was present for her rockin' birthday party, but had yet to give her the shout out on the blog which she definitely deserves. If you don't know this, Caitlin is my best friend's wife, and it is safe to say that we have bridged the Dave gap and are good, nay, best friends of our own merit. Not only does she comment on almost every post, which I absolutely LOVE, but she and her husband have definitely been there for me when times have been tough. She is very identifiably the reason why my best friend has become an even better person since being married to her and I just love her for it. So happy birthday. You can step away from the edge of the bridge and put on a happy face. Why would you even take a picture right before committing suicide? It doesn't seem like a moment you want to remember. It doesn't even make any sense. You finally got the official Rollin' In My 6-4 Birthday blog recognition that you've been dying for...get it? Good. Happy Birthday Caitlin!
I'm surprised at how many times I have confronted people about the subject. I had one friend that was living with me for a short time that had a problem with it. I remember just feeling so awful about even having to bring up the subject. I saw him all throughout the day and I was getting a headache just from the dread of having to confront him about it (because he was using my computer to do it). I felt like I was feeling worse about bringing it up than he did about me finding out about it. It's just such a sad, debilitating addiction. I have some teenage cousins that have dealt with it. One of the most disturbing things was looking through one of their yearbooks at the comments that were left and several girls talked about his male organs and having sexy time with him. No joke. I would think that everyone in some way or another has been directly, or indirectly, targeted by its agenda.
One person that I always reference when discussing the subject is Dr. Judith Reisman. I read one of her books, Soft Porn Plays Hardball, that discusses how devious the popular distributors work to mainstream sexuality, permissiveness, and pornography into our culture. One of the most interesting articles is by Dr. Reisman that examines the physiological effects of viewing pornography. Here is an exceprt that I couldn't cut and paste and had to type out for your consumption:
As far as the brain is concerned, a reward's a reward, regardless of whether it comes from a chemical or an experience. And where there's a reward, there's the risk of the vulnerable brain getting tramped in a compulsion.
Howard Schaffer, head of Harvard's Division on Addictions says:
I had great difficulty with my own colleagues when I suggested that a lot of addiction is the result of experience...repetitive, high-emotion, high-frequency experience...but it's become clear that neuroadaption - that is, changes in neural circuitry that help perpetuate behavior - occurs even in the absence of drug taking...
Vanderbilt psychiatrist Peter Martin's research on "normal subjects" finds the brain activity experience in sexual arousal of his normal subjects "looks like that accompanying drug consumption."
...Lust, that is sexual arousal, toward a real or media image, when experienced in the body as a drug high, poses significant danger, especially for those with an already delicate psyche. For, such chemical flooding of the brain would too often override ones cognitive thought and interfere with rational decisions to protect themselves and others.Neuropsychiatrist, Richard Restak is enthusiastic about scientific confirmation that "we can change how our brain operates" saying, "we can literally change our brain for the better as a result of new interests and the development of new talents." "Brain research is confirming a long cherished and valued belief that when it comes to our mind and its development," says Restake, "we retain a gratifying measure of control after all."
One interesting point that Dr. Reisman brings up in the book is the direct correlation that exists between the rise in soft porn with a corresponding increase in the divorce rate, as well as sexual dysfunction. It's no coincidence. Another interesting article of hers is the linkage between pornography and rape. From the article, she writes:
In "Journey Into Darkness" (1997), the FBI's premier serial-rape profiler, John Douglas wrote, "[Serial-rape murders are commonly found] with a large pornography collection, either store-bought or homemade. … our [FBI] research does show that certain types of sadomasochistic and bondage-oriented material can fuel the fantasies of those already leaning in that direction."
In "The Evil That Men Do" (1998), FBI serial-rape-murderer-mutilator profiler Roy Hazelwood quotes one sex killer who tied his victims in "a variety of positions" based on pictures he saw in sex magazines.
"Thrill Killers, a Study of America 's Most Vicious Murders," by Charles Linedecker, reports that 81 percent of these killers rated pornography as their primary sexual interest. Dr. W.L. Marshall, in "Criminal Neglect, Why Sex Offenders Go Free" (1990), says based on the evidence, pornography "feeds and legitimizes their deviant sexual tendencies."
In one study of rapists, Gene Abel of the New York Psychiatric Institute cited, "One-third reported that they had used pornography immediately prior to at least one of their crimes." In 1984, the U.S. Attorney General's Task Force on Family Violence reported, "Testimony indicates that an alarming number of rape and sexual assault offenders report that they were acting out behavior they had viewed in pornographic materials."
More pornography equals more rape of children and women. We need to ask whether Big Government is now selling out to Big Pornography as it did to Big Tobacco for half a century.
A lot of the support that legitimizes the pornography industry is based off of the work of Alfred Kinsey, a famed sexologist from the 1940s. One popular statistic that is attributed to his work is the one stating that 10% of the population is homosexual. I'm sure you've heard that before. The problem with his work was that his work was based on a poor sample that had a selection bias. The statistic is misleading because people assume that it's a normal sample. The question that his statistic answer would be more appropriately phrased, in a population of prisoners with a number of the offenders sexual deviants, what percentage of the population is homosexual? The answer would be about 10%, in that case. His work gained so much support because big-money backers like the soft porn industry can use his "scientific" conclusions to peddle their product. This link talks a little bit about her book on the subject.
Lastly, this final video and excerpts are kind of what inspired me to write this post. I don't know how the subject popped up into my mind the other day, but then I remembered a conversation I had with another missionary back when I was serving in Chile. He was talking about how his dad was a bishop and some of the brothers that he was helping with their addictions. One thing that his father would always bring up was the final interview that Ted Bundy had with Dr. James Dobson.
There are several parts to the interview, but this one delivers the message well. If you're interested in more, this is part 1, part 2, part 3, part 5, and part 6. Part 4 is what I have here. The first part speaks of Dr. Dobson's credentials and why he feels Bundy gave him a legitimate and honest interview. I've only seen part 1, 2, and 4. It's probably all well worth watching though. One interesting thing that Dobson points out is that Bundy had Dobson agree to use all proceeds from the distribution of the video go solely to the manufacturing and distribution of the video, and then all remaining monies would go to the fight again pornography. I think the video speaks for itself, but I will include this one last very alarming excerpt spoken by Ted Bundy in the interview:
I wasn’t some guy hanging out in bars, or a bum. I wasn’t a pervert in the sense that people look at somebody and say, “I know there’s something wrong with him.” I was a normal person. I had good friends. I led a normal life, except for this one, small but very potent and destructive segment that I kept very secret and close to myself. Those of us who have been so influenced by violence in the media, particularly pornographic violence, are not some kind of inherent monsters. We are your sons and husbands. We grew up in regular families. Pornography can reach in and snatch a kid out of any house today. It snatched me out of my home 20 or 30 years ago. As diligent as my parents were, and they were diligent in protecting their children, and as good a Christian home as we had, there is no protection against the kinds of influences that are loose in a society that tolerates....
Please do everything you can to insulate yourselves from this completely consuming and dark addiction. Pray for your husbands, boyfriends, and friends, because it is something that we have to combat on a daily basis. And if you know anyone dealing with this problem, don't treat it lightly.
And then for me, Strung Out is playing March 8th. 311 is playing February 22nd in Las Vegas. Want to go to that one? I should hear within a month about BYU. The newly anointed nurse Karen is going to grace us with her presence in Southern California next week. Let's all wish her a Happy Birthday, by the way. It's actually today. There really are a slew of things to be excited about. I was having a hard time at first coming up with this list, but there are all sorts of things going on.
You know what else I'm noticing these days? Three things really make me content:
I think I'm figuring out a lot these days. It is nice to feel on top of things, or at least that I'm getting there. Hope you are all doing well.
I would get some more from additional sources, but I'm not too excited to read more about how the party is moving away from the direction that I'd like it to go in. In spite of what occurred last night, it is a really great thing be able to go and cast my ballot and take part in the democratic process.
I did find this video very interesting. Don't even listen to the audio because that's not the point. Turn the video on and look at the supporters behind the candidates. On the McCain side you have his mother (considering he's in his early 70s...she's older), his wife, Senator Lieberman, and several others. Then when it cuts to the Obama speech, what is the average age of the people sitting behind him? 20 something right? I am clueless as to how McCain is going to connect with young-to-middle-aged voters the way Obama is going to be able to. Even Hillary has a better chance at that than McCain. Hugh says it on his site, but the reason we need to support whoever the GOP nominee ends up being is because of the war and 6 supreme court justices who are over the age of 68.
I'm afraid that even knowing those things still makes it hard for me to rally to his cause the way I would have with Mitt. I had a brief chat with a friend last night and it really feels like the voice of the American people is just not yearning for the right things. Historically, when that has happened, judgments tend to come about and people get reminded of what things are really important. We might be on the downturn of that cycle right now. There are a lot of things looming that we can't really be sure of, namely, the economy and terror abroad.
I read not too long ago an article that was talking about new businesses and how sometimes those ones that start with little end up more successful than ones with plenty of resources at their disposal. The reason being that companies with little money typically are more responsive because with little money to waste, they have to adjust quickly to setbacks and obstacles. A business with money to spare might waste too much time and resources on a sinking strategy simply because the need to be responsive is not as great. I feel like that can explain a little bit the success of the Huckabee campaign and the failure of the Romney campaign to gain any traction. Romney probably outspent Huckabee about 10:1, but they produced almost the exact same results. He had a very tough time reaching anybody who didn't already have a rooting interest in his candidacy. In other words, he couldn't convince anybody on the margin, let alone those who opposed him from the outset.



Until last night, when I watched the Republican debate, I had no idea how much John McCain dislikes me and just about everybody else but Rudy Giuliani, who if you believe The New York Times is a pretty good hater himself.
As I watched McCain and Governor Romney go at it during the debate at the Reagan Library I was struck by the huge gap that separates McCain -- whose contempt for his fellow humans is patently obvious -- and my dad, Ronald Reagan, who had nothing but the deepest affection and respect for the American people. The feeling is mutual between McCain and me. I don’t like the way he treats people. You get the impression that he thinks everybody is beneath him.He seems to be saying, “I was a war hero, and you had damn well better treat me as your superior.” He has contempt for conservatives who he thinks can be duped into thinking he’s one of them, despite such blatantly anti-conservative actions as his support for amnesty for illegal immigrants, his opposition to the Bush tax cuts which got the economy rolling again, and his campaign finance bill which skewed the political process and attacked free
speech.
But McCain may have won this debate before it ever started because the Giuliani endorsement today and the Schwarzenegger endorsement tomorrow appear to be trumping anything that happened tonight.
In fact, the conservative vote has been split in many directions, but now has to decide whether to coalesce around Romney and send the race deep into the spring or turn the party over to Senator McCain and run a 1976/1968 campaign of the center. Mike Huckabee wants GOP voters to ignore what is at work in his remaining in the race, but that's hardly likely. Next Tuesday's contests will be a measure of the strength of the GOP's conservative wing. If it remains strong, it will keep the Romney campaign competitive with wins across the country except in the northeast. If it shrugs its shoulders, the Reagan Coalition will have finished its run.
Paul wrote a long time ago about the "stature gap" between the Republican presidential candidates and the Democrats. I think we're seeing that, in the eyes of most Americans, the real stature gap is between McCain and the rest of the field. Americans generally choose the person, not his policies. That's frustrating to many of us, but history suggests that it's usually wise.
So, are primary voters preferring McCain (or Romney) because they think he'll do a better job on the economy? Or do they think McCain (or Romney) will do a better job on the economy because they prefer him?
My strong sense is that it's the latter -- preference drives perception of economic soundness. Voters as a group probably have little idea about the comparative economic acumen, or the substantive economic views, of McCain and Romney. But they do know which of the two they like more and which of the two they trust more, in general. That candidate is likely to become the one they think will do the best job with the economy.

I think getting the text hearing about President Hinckley's passing is one of those moments that I will remember for the rest of my life. How about you? I think for a lot of people my age, he was our prophet. Something kind of neat about last night was during one of my home teaching visits, we just sat and talked about our favorite President Hinckley moments. A couple of the other guys had some pretty cool experiences, one of them being present in the celestial room at the dedication of the San Diego Temple. I didn't have anything like that, but my favorite moment came while serving as a missionary in the suburb of Quilicura in Santiago, Chile.
Today is the observance of Martin Luther King Jr.'s birthday. When looking back on the past, it's easy to point out the greatness of certain individual's and their monumental efforts because the ripples of their lives has had time to resonate throughout the annals of history. I read this piece this morning and was feeling a little bit short-changed that we haven't seen the likes of MLK in years. Then I began to wonder how often it is that we are in the midst of a remarkable human being and we can't even recognize it. It could be at the end of our nose and we wouldn't even know it.
I thought this was really cool. Recently discovered photos of President Lincoln's Second Inauguration.Greg's (father Reid) latest thing at birthdays is to go around and have people tell funny stories about the person on his day of birth celebration. I was thinking last night after soccer about what I should have shared as some people told their stories. The one I thought of was years ago and the first time I realized that Mike would probably be as funny as his older brothers...

So Dave and I were going through our tennis phase when we were 14 or 15. Mike was about 8 at that time and going through the I-want-to-hang-out-with-my-older-brother-and-his-friends phase. It was a summer day and we wanted to play tennis, but loathed the thought of shagging the balls ourselves because it was just so hot. So we naturally thought, let's take advantage of little brother Mike and we can have him and Amanda shag the balls like the pros do and it will be great. Fun for us, and then little Mike Reid will be serving a purpose while getting to hang with us so everybody wins, right? We go out to play and sure enough Mike gets tired of shagging our balls. Frustrated with him, I yelled, "Mike! what's that ball doing on the court?" And he curtly responded, "I don't know! the backstroke?" He totally caught me, and Dave, by surprise and we just died laughing. It may not sound that funny to you now, but the joke actually came from some dumb book where a customer asked a waiter at a restaurant what a fly was doing in his soup. The backstroke he says, loved it...Happy Birthday little brother!