“God, how we get our fingers in each other's clay. That's friendship, each playing the potter to see what shapes we can make of each other.” -Ray Bradbury
Tuesday, July 31, 2007
Have You Seen This Show Yet?
Okay...So I have heard about this show from a couple of people and I didn't really think anything of it at first, but tonight I had my virgin run and I liked it a lot. I had a taste on Lindsey's blog, but I didn't realize that the clip came from the show until tonight. I think I like that it's really stupid humor a lot of the time. I think I tend to like comedies where I feel like I could come up with the same kind of stuff, or that similar things might come up when I'm sitting around with my friends. Plus...I have a special place in my heart for the bird. Something funny and bird related you ask?
I don't know why, but especially our freshman year in college Dave and I thought that it was ridiculous that so much meaning could be assigned to a simple hand gesture. So we gave unadulterated birds to each other. Dave decided to take it one step further.
As residential appraisers we would drive A LOT. So patience would wear thin much of the time as we would drive. This led to some poor driving habits and sometimes other people suffered as a result. Then one time we had cutoff a carload of girls and we got multiple birds and Dave decided to capitalize on the arbitrary assigned meaning of offense to the middle finger that many people have, and pretended to start freaking out. If you ever saw it, you'd know how awesome it was. It consisted of screaming and yelling and hitting himself in the head. It looked so absurd that I would mostly just start laughing. In this particular instance, after a confused two or three seconds of staring from the girls, they began to roar in laughter. This probably isn't funny if you aren't someone who has seen the act before, but I wish he would bring that back.
I Still Get Nervous
My normal pattern these days for that first call is that I will usually have in mind several things to bring up or talk about in that first real conversation, whether it's over the phone or on an actual date, or whatever. There is nothing I hate more than when I can't talk to a person. So if conversation is ever difficult, I try and make every attempt to make sure that it isn't because I wasn't doing my best to be interested in the other person and have something to opine about on a number of different subjects. But I really hate the lack of stimulating conversation, and maybe that's where some of my apprehension comes from when calling the girl for the first time because I put so much weight on conversation.
Not only do I have topics of conversation, but I will usually even have in my mind the kind of message I'll leave if she doesn't answer. I know, it's totally ridiculous, but having all these things in mind beforehand helps me to avoid sounding nervous and appear more natural. Being natural=cool and cool=scoring with chicks, right?
I've only started really thinking about this recently, but it is very unusual to even have the same conversational pattern as somebody else. There are so many things that go into conversation. Not only do people have different things that they like to talk about, but they will have a varying depth of interest in the person him- or herself and that affects the flow of the conversation. Different people pause at different times or have certain patterns of humor that is unique to his/her own way of living and who they are affected by. There are so many nuances to communication, it's a wonder to me how people ever 'connect'. Personally, ability to converse is integral to the type of interest that I have in a person. I think it basically comes down to two things, 1) ability to communicate and interpret ideas and 2) interest in the person. If either of those things are lacking then it's not worth my time.
Ladies, you really don't know what an ordeal it is to have to put yourself out there and try and win you over. And I know it's easy to say, well so what? if it doesn't happen then it wasn't meant to be. I don't care who you are, it's impossible for your ego not to be involved when it comes to dating. It is entirely subjective, but it still sucks hard to get blown off by someone you're interested in. The fact that you're interested in the person indicates a high opinion of said individual, and to be ignored by that person still blows. I don't know how else to say that more clearly.
I just thought it was funny though because tonight I called this girl and she's totally cool and easy to talk to, but still...it made me nervous. And I went through my normal ritual of thinking of conversation pieces, voicemail message, and staring at her phone number for a while before I actually call.
How Should I Feel About This?
The school is private so that means expensive. To the tune of about $30,000 a year. Most, if not all students receive some aid that amounts to about $6,000 a year. So you're obligated to fund through loans or other sources about $20,000 at least a year.
In addition to being expensive, I just don't like several key people in the program. I think the chair for the School of Behavior and Organizational Sciences is a douchebag. I feel like my advisor is out to get me. And one of the teachers that I really admired when I first started the program went through a nasty divorce last year and from then on has been a huge perra. That's Spanish. You know what I mean. So pretty much I feel like the program does not tap me into pipelines of work opportunities, and even if it did, I don't feel like the education I'm receiving is really providing me with relevant experience that gives me a competitive edge. Then on top of that, I feel like everyone hates me.
I took a leave of absence last semester and then because of poor interdepartmental communication, I was dropped from the program. I had to file a petition to get back in and it worked. But then I didn't register right away when that semester passed so it happened again. When that happened I became very agitated that I might have to petition a second time to get back in, and so I started considering alternative plans. One of those plans that I'm going to act on is applying for the PhD program at BYU. Not only do they offer myriad opportunities for practical experience, it's like 1/6 the price of Claremont. So currently, my plan is to visit this next month, talk with my old professors, and get my application in by the end of September.
However, just today my advisor's assistant is contacting me asking me to get in touch with my advisor to enroll for classes. So apparently according to some people at Claremont, I still am a student at the university. In the same day, I got a letter telling me that I'm not getting financial aid. I think this is especially idiotic considering that I've been getting notices from Sallie Mae which is the creditor for my student loans telling me I need start paying back my loan. If you're not aware, when they're telling you that you need to payback your loan it either means you've graduated or not registered with the school anymore. Being that I haven't graduated yet, I obviously thought that I was dropped from the program. Which really didn't bother me much at all. I was actually kind of excited to not have CGU hanging over my head anymore.
Make no mistake, I really hate my program. It's been that way since the first semester, but I had myself fooled for a while that I was into it. I think there have been moments. Overall I just don't feel like it has been, or ever will be, that beneficial for my career prospects.
I think I know how I feel about all this now, but it still bugs the crap out of me. I paid this much money to get such poor service? And another thing, all of the professors at CGU decided they were going to take their sabbaticals during the same two year period. Not for the entire time, but when you're only going to be studying in the program for a couple of years and you want to work with a particular professor, it's kind of hugely inconvenient to realize that person will be gone for a quarter of the time you are attending the program. Blah.
So Concerts, Huh?
This weekend I'm pretty pumped because I'm going to see Strung Out on Friday night. I could go see Unwritten Law and depending on how I'm feeling and how the weekend turns out, I just might. On September 7th I'm going to see Incubus at the Verizon Wireless Amphitheatre. For about the last year or two I have been really into those guys. I think that will be fun sitting on the lawn. I never go to big shows so this will be different then the tiny venues of punk bands that I'm used to. Anyway...just thought I'd share.
Movie Review: Fantastic Four - Rise Of The Silver Surfer
What can I say? It was at the dollar theater. I think I'll see anything that's over there. It's kind of awesome actually. They sell $1 hot dogs too. And while I was watching the movie I noticed a big stain on the screen that looked like someone had thrown their drink up there. Nice. I thought the movie was better than the first one, which may not be saying much. Very cheesy lines. Lots of stupid crap, but the action was pretty cool and I think the Silver Surfer is one of the coolest characters in comics. I dig on that crap. Worth my time? I'd say yes. Worth my $1.50? I think so. Worth full price? No way.
Monday, July 30, 2007
A War We Just Might Win
Returning To A Semblance Of Normality
Movie Review: The Simpsons Movie
To tell you the truth, I wasn't even that excited about going to see the movie. I knew that I would, but I wasn't really that amped about it, like say, how I am for Hot Rod. But we went and saw it on Saturday and I loved it. I don't know if it was a combination of my lowered expectations and it actually being pretty good, but in any case I thought it was well worth my money. I think I'd even see it again in the theater. It is pretty short, but there are a lot of good laughs. If you're going expecting it to be like the golden age of Simpsons, then you'll probably be disappointed. What you've seen in commercials and the trailer are not the only funny scenes in the movie. Actually, having it be in the theater and not subject to as much censorship allowed for them to do some pretty funny jokes that you're not used to seeing from them. Well worth your time.
Double Backflip
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In anticipation of the upcoming X-Games this week, here is a video of a kid doing a double backflip on his dirtbike. The story goes, he was watching last year when Travis Pastrana completed the double back and he just decided he was going to do it too. Not only that, but he got the invite to come to the X-Games and all of these sponsors wanted to sign him up, but he refused. To raise the money to come out and compete, he had a fundraiser where he performed the trick TWICE. Anyway...the clip is cool, but what's even better is the audio of the guy fa-reaking out. LOTS of swearing, but it's pretty funny. Brace yourself.
Sunday, July 29, 2007
Remember When...
We arrived early to partake of a buffet style dinner provided by the firm. Dave was his usual charming-self during the pre-game festivities. If you know Dave then you know that he is a perfect combination of funny and flattering. It kind of reminds me of the soirees that are in Pride and Prejudice and how the women would swoon over a particular man because he was so delectably charming. That is Dave and he kind of thrives in these types of situations. Sometimes I think he would be such a good politician.
Our seats were good. I got a bunch of free food. Free parking. At first the Angels went down two in the first inning, but Gary Matthews stole a potential grand slam and then we came back with 6 the next inning. You know what is one of my favorite things about the Friday night games? Big Bang Friday Nights. There is an awesome fireworks display that follows the game and after your team just won, it is a pretty good way to finish things off. This has to be my favorite fireworks show just because they have a soundtrack to the whole thing, and I like that they even vary the music that goes to the fireworks. My absolute favorite is when they play that song Calling All Angels. I fully get teary-eyed because it is so apart of the Angels baseball experience.
Prior to the game they start with a highlight film that traces great moments in Angels history and they will dub in clips from the radio broadcast of those moments. The whole thing is set to that particular song. Which brings me to the title of the post...
Remember the 2002 playoffs and World Series? We had come in and won 99 games. That is a ton of games to win and not even win the division, but that's what happened that season. We were paired up with the Yankees who were in their familiar seats as favorites to win the title that year. After losing the first game, we won the next three. What was awesome was the second game where we scored something like 9 runs in one inning and at that point it was like...omigosh...not only are we not afraid of these guys, we could win this series. And so we did.
Against the Twins in the ALCS, we were also the underdogs. I remember watching ESPN and seeing most of the broadcasters picking us to lose in 6 games. I think it was the final game of that series where Adam Kennedy decided to do his best Mr. October impression and hit 3 home runs, even though I'm pretty sure he's never hit more than 10 or 15 in an entire season.
The World Series was the same story. The Giants were favored to win. Barry Bonds had just come off his 73 home run campaign the year before and was going through that postseason trying to shake-off the the prior playoff demons he had while playing for the Pirates. And the guy was on fire. He hit a home run in the first game that we lost at home. Even in the second game. He seriously was unstoppable. We salvaged one of the games in San Francisco, but were down 3-2 going home for 6 and a possible 7.
Dave and I watched the game in our apartment in Provo. The guys across the hall from us were from SoCal as well so they were into the game just as much as we were. The guys downstairs too. It was so awesome to be watching those games and hearing other guys cheer in different apartments for the same thing you were cheering for. It reminded me of serving in Chile when the whole country goes quiet except for when their team scores a goal. That game 6, however, had us go down 5-0 in the 7th inning.
I'm very irritable when my team is losing. Very. I couldn't watch anymore and we hadn't eaten all evening. I had already been through so many losing seasons and even through '95 when we blew something like a 9 game lead, then had a one game playoff that we lost to Seattle to make the postseason. It killed me to see us come so close just to blow it. So we were going to head over to Pizza Factory for dinner with Dave's sister, Annalee.
When we arrived we had some time to wait and they happened to be playing the game. It was the 7th inning. The Giants were 8 outs from winning the World Series. At that point, the people preparing for the celebration had put all of the champaign and draped the lockeroom in plastic in anticipation of the impending victory.
With two men on, I watch Scott "Beerkeg" Spezio hit a 3-run home run while we were waiting to eat. Just as we were arriving to our apartment after dinner, Darrin Erstad hit a solo home run, and they rallied for 2 more runs that same inning to take the game and eventually the World Series.
There are a lot of things to love about that season if you're an Angels fan. The Rally Monkey was born that year. He even sparked that 3-run rally in Game 6. What I think is also really cool is that same season we almost had to go through another strike-shortened, no World Series year. The collective bargaining agreement between the Owners and the Players associations was up and it went down to the 11th hour. In fact the last game that was played before the deadline was at Angel Stadium. I don't remember who it was that they were playing, but I was driving up to school that Sunday to start the new school year. When they finished the game and it was still looking like the strike was going to occur, the fans at Anaheim Stadium started to throw all of their trash onto the field in protest. Fortunately, negotiations turned and we were able to see the first title in the history of the organization.
If you're a guy, there is just nothing better in the whole world than to see your team win it all. What makes it even better is when your team doesn't have a history of winning it all, or it just isn't something that you would have ever expected. I was sure that season that they would meltdown at some point, but they never did. I still get teary-eyed when I hear that song, or when I see Darrin Erstad catch the final out, or see Troy Percival lean back and yell in jubilation. I'm not gonna lie, not much gives me greater joy than that kind of stuff.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Some Rambling...
With the recent events in my life, I've had that section go through my mind a lot about Joseph in Liberty Jail. I'm well aware of the importance of keeping my head up. It's so different when you're actually going through things though, you know? It is so easy when things are going alright for people to say...well just be positive, or don't worry about it, or...God is watching out for you, you're gonna be okay. Sometimes you just have to kind of let things settle in. I've been praying so much for clarity in my judgment. I'm even praying that I don't hate this man that did this to my mom, I'm praying that I don't become embittered or let this jade me completely. I pray for deliverance and just to know how to deal with everything. But sometimes you just need to mourn and kind of just deal with things as they are. I really appreciate that scripture in Mosiah 18. Sometimes we just need to mourn with those who mourn, and bear one another's burdens.
I have a friend who is amazing at practicing this virtue. He is actually one of the best people ever at it. We had a friend and she basically burned down her apartment. Like destroyed it. This was up at school and so many people came by and were like...it's going to be okay, you're going to get through this, and some people even said, okay...what can we learn from this? They said all of these things before they said anything else to her. A lot of times we just don't realize that people need to let things settle in a little bit, and sometimes it's better to just be sad or upset with someone rather than thinking the answer is saying something like, just don't worry about it, things are okay...or God has a plan for you. His reaction was atypical of what she was getting. Rather than just responding like everybody else did, he empathized and said, "I'm so sorry. That just really sucks." Sometimes we need to hear that more than, "you're going to be fine, things will turn out for the best." Sometimes we really do need to just take time to mourn with those who mourn. I think this is perfectly illustrated when Mary and Martha are mourning the death of Lazarus and then there follows that famous short verse, "Jesus wept."
Why was Jesus crying? Did he not know what we was about to do? Did he not really believe that he could raise Lazarus from the dead? Reading the chapter, it's obvious that he went with the intention of bringing Lazarus back. I think one of the coolest parts that verse is that he was so intimately acquianted with Lazarus, and with Mary and Martha. Of course he knew what miracle he was about to perform. He was fully aware of his power and that he could bring Lazarus back from the dead. Not only that, but he knew that it was God's will for it to happen so then there was absolutely nothing that would prevent him from performing the miracle. So the question of why...
Because those were his friends. They were his best friends. He knew that they didn't fully understand what he was capable of, and he knew that the only thing they were experiencing was the pain of losing a loved one, one whom they thought they would never see again in this life. Never again. There is a tremendous amount of pain and sense of loss that one feels when mourning the dead. In spite of his knowledge of what was going to occur, he wept with them because he too was experiencing that pain that they were feeling. Even though his faith is perfect and he knows better than anybody else that things are going to turn out alright in the end, he perfectly understood the importance of letting someone grieve and how important it is to just experience that emotion with another person. There is so much to gain sometimes from just the experience of feeling for the sake of feeling.
What's been hard about this situation is that for a couple of months, I actually thanked Heavenly Father in my prayers because I felt like, finally, my mom has someone that can be there for her and take care of her. I said a lot of those prayers. Is this really what God intended to happen? I honestly don't know. A lot of me wants to say yes, and a lot of me wants to say that God would never want this to happen to anybody. I feel like it's not something that he wanted, but happened through the natural course of people exercising their agency. The miracle of it all is that regardless of whether or not this was in his original blueprint for our lives, we will still learn and gain the perfectly customized experience that he intends us to have. In that talk I keep linking to Elder Maxwell, he says that God customizes the curriculum for our benefit. Isn't that amazing?
I think it would be really easy to ask, or even to question my faith and say to myself...how could God let me thank him for this person who was actually ruining my mom's life? I think that would be really easy to do. And I don't think that I'm doing that, but I could see how some people would look at the circumstances and react in that way. You know what I mean? There are so many nuances to life and experience, I think sometimes we don't give the plan of salvation enough credit because sometimes things happen that we just can't understand right away and we try to compartmentalize it. While just trying to right ourselves and get reoriented, we try and just write it off quickly for the sake of moving on without REALLY learning what it is that we need to be learning.
All of the sudden something happens that we just flat out cannot explain or comprehend with our finite minds, and at first glance it looks like it can damage our faith, and so we close ourselves off to what the real answer may be. We're afraid that examination will cause more hurt rather than help. I think sometimes we do that when we try and just give short answers or just pretend like this is just how things are and we just need to deal with it. I don't know if I'm explaining myself that well, but I feel like I'm really learning a lot about God and how His plans really works. Maybe that sounds crazy. I don't know, but I think there is a lot about this situation that will take me a whole life time to really understand, and then to really fine-tune that understanding that I get.
Tuesday, July 24, 2007
Everything Is Alright
*The tradition is basically this - at the stateline between California and Nevada there is a casino that houses a little exhibit whose main feature is the Bonny & Clyde DEATH CAR! On our way to and from Utah, we would stop by and scream DEATH CAR an innumerable amount of times, take some pics, then be on our way. I think Laura and Annalee are the only people whoever partook in this glorious tradition. Maybe Chris too (not me, different Chris). In fact I know he did because I can distinctly remember a picture of "Fat Dave" being in there with Gaunt Chris standing there too. This was during a time when Dave's life consisted of going to class in the morning, then coming home and having Red Baron's pizzas with ranch dressing, watching Elimidate and Blind Date every afternoon and then falling asleep for a couple of hours. Sometimes he brings this up to me and asks me why I never told him that he was so fat. Does it surprise you when you look at the sedentary lifestyle you were leading and eating whole pizzas garnished with ranch that you weren't skinny? Anyway...
My life is pretty crazy these days. You know what really sucks about all of this? I actually have like a million blog posts that come up and I want so much to write about every single one of them, but now that extra time turns into trying to take-care-of-all-this-stupid-crap-time, blogging goes out the window. I know...that's the part that really sucks, right? Not all of this other crap.
Just to fill you in, I have talked to the police three times in about a week, spoken with several lawyers, had my life threatened, and now have to go to Vegas. Yesterday while in conversation with one of said attorneys, the actual thought came to my mind, "Not that I would ever do it, but I can understand how a person can feel so screwed by the system that it would drive them to kill." I had never actually contemplated homicide, and not that I was even seriously considering it (maybe more casually, at least), but that feeling of anger and wanting retribution came up and I could very well understand how someone who exercises little restraint in his life would be driven to that point. I think that, unless you have actually had that cognition run through your mind, then you don't really understand what it means to feel something like that. Let me stress that I would never condone the action by another person or consider it myself, but I can see how a series of events could lead a person to feel that is an appropriate action to take.
Seriously...so many blog posts running through my mind these days. And they're about totally random things. Like the next one I think I might do is kind of weird (weird, meaning gay - that's for Laura), and you'll think...wait...this is what you've been wanting to post about? To that I respond with a vehement, HELLs yeah that is what I want to post about.
I think pretty soon I will end up posting some of the things that have been going on just for the sake of expressing and venting. So if you are or aren't interested, you'll be hearing more in any case.
Is it so lame that it bothers me when someone refers to a "post" as a "blog"? For instance, a person might say, yeah, you should blog about such and such. The blog is the whole site, numbnuts. The post is the individual piece. I actually don't really mind that much, and it really is just semantics I guess, but sometimes I'm like...yes, I think I'll "blog" about the very idea that I would so stupidly get annoyed about something like that.
Everybody, I have to say that I just love the people in my life. From those who are close to me, to those who I only know through casual encounters (that is not an innuendo, sicko), thank you all. In spite of everything that is going on, I feel very blessed to have the support that I do have and to live in the circumstances that I am in. You would be really surprised at how many people I haven't heard from in a long time all of the sudden just calling up, or emailing and just checking in on how I'm doing. One way or another we'll all get through this time and hopefully I am not just enduring, but enduring well, as they say. So thanks again. I'll try and check in more regularly.
Friday, July 20, 2007
A Terrible Poverty Of Imagination
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Results Show Thursday
Happy 100!
I would like to thank all of you who made this possible, namely, me. As well as the loyal readers that have perused the pages of Rollin' In My 6-4. I have no idea who it is, but this blog is a hit with somebody in Hot-lanta so I'd like to say thanks for visiting us here. Caitlin...I think you win for most consistent comments, but Karen is a close second. Also, Karen was here from Day 1. I'd also like to thank Laura for always so consistently pointing out how gay I am. Dave, I think you have provided the funniest comments on this blog. And a surprising one goes to Doug...who would have thought his comments would be so thoughtful? They are few and far between, but when you speak you speak your mind and I commend you for it. Oh gosh, this was so unexpected...there are so many people to thank...and the last one will have to go to the wonderful workers at McDonalds who so neatly package their wonderful little egg McMuffins, without which, I might never be late for school.
The DAMN Moment Of The Week
Umm...I don't think that there was anything that really stuck out for me about this week's show. At first I really liked having Wade on the panel, but then I kind of got tired of all the criticism he levied, although none of it was really negative, just constant. I think this show wasn't dynamite because as a judge, he wasn't able to choreograph anything and his stuff is usually the best. I'm sad to say that I think Kameron or Hok are gone this week. More Kameron, I think. I really like them both. But can't you totally understand where the judges are coming from in their criticism of him? Although...I am never really excited about Dan Karaty's dances. Never. Remember last season he did that one with Heidi and some guy to the Kelly Clarkson song? Nothing exciting about his stuff whatsoever. So I kind of don't blame Kameron for that one.
If I absolutely had to give a DAMN moment for the week, even though I don't think anything was DAMN worthy, it's going to have to go to...I dunno, I guess Pasha and Sara. I am more and more impressed with Sara week in and week out. Plus I think they're dolling her up quite nicely. Also, Lauryn has great arms. You know how I love me some nice arms on girls. Or maybe you don't, but now you do. Anyway...here they are, most favorite to least. I think the middle three are all tied.
Pasha and Sara Week 5
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I like Queen. I liked this dance a good amount. My favorite of an okay week.
Neil and Lauren Week 5
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I really shouldn't put these above Dom and Sabra and Danny and Anya, but I liked this one. Generally, Mia is a pretty good bet to have a good dance.
Dominic and Sabra Week 5
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I still love these two the most. I love Sabra's raspy voice. I think they're great, love their dances week in and week out.
Anya and Danny Week 5
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I really dig on the leap that he does in the beginning. I thought this was pretty good, but I wasn't as elated as the judges were.
Kameron and Lacey Week 5
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She was pretty decent, but I'm not seeing the magic like the judges are on her. I like her a lot and think she is above average on everything she does, but still...not my MVP. Still good though. And Kameron...he's good, but I think he's outta here.
Hok and Jaimie Week 5
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Does anyone else think Jamie is an idiot? Great dancer, great lines, blah blah blah...but is she just not completely annoying to listen to? Bugs me. I like Hok a lot, but he's struggling right now.
So which girl is going to be heading out? All of them I think are actually looking really strong. For some reason I am just not as in love with these dancers as I was last season. My two favorites are Dominic and Sabra all the way. Then after that it gets muddled...I like Lauryn a lot. Neil is super goofy, but I love that spin kick thing he does. Hok is great, but I just don't think he's versatile enough. I'm liking Sara more and more every week, like I've been saying for the last several weeks. I think Pasha is a dork. Something about him just bothers me. I dunno. We'll see I guess. I think Kameron and....Anya. That might be a surprise. I think her solos are less than spectacular. I think there's more appeal with all of the other girls though. The girl will be a surprise to us all, I think.
Mourn With Those Who Mourn
Sometimes you just need to go to your best friend's house and have a chocolate banana shake. Or sometimes you just need someone to hear your situation. Or even just get mad with you, even if nothing is going to come of it. So many people have reached out the last several days and I cannot tell you how much it has meant to me, even if it's in seemingly insignificant ways. I need as many "hang in there"s as I can get.
One positive thing about going through a crisis situation is that you if you have good people with you, you really rally around each other and strengthen one another. At first it was really hard for me to see people I respect so much get so rattled, but it was really encouraging to be there for them in the same way that they have been there for me so many times in my life. It has been hard to feel like there is a way out and then have that door close so quickly. But I have really grown in appreciation for the people around me, even more than I ever thought I could.
Anyway, it means a lot. Every word you say, everything that you do from just listening to just distracting me from this stuff, it really means a lot. Thanks.
Wednesday, July 18, 2007
Don't You Hate That?
You know when your life is pretty crappy, but when you wake up there is a second or two of coming to when you are either feeling the euphoria of a good dream or just don't really know consciously what is actually going on? And then you finally become alert and it hits you like a ton of bricks that things are just really hard right now. It's the most rude awakening you can have. It's awful. At the same time, however, I'm really grateful that I had that dream. That dream was the only respite I had for the last 24+ hours. Funny, huh?
Tuesday, July 17, 2007
Holy Hell
I thought being heart-broken by a girl was the lowest I would be this year. And that happened a couple of times. I thought that having my cousin go through some drug issues was bad. It's so cliche and almost trite now, but things really can be worse. As bad as you think things might be, it really could be worse. I'm completely depending on that line of thinking these days to get me from one minute to the next. I have literally been on the brink of just feeling so completely broken for several days now, and I'm just depending on the verity of the principle that these things that I'm experiencing are entirely necessary for my salvation and exaltation, that these experiences are specifically catered for me and my reaching eternal glory.
I'll finish with a clip from the Elder Maxwell talk that I linked to not too long ago:
Most of our suffering, brothers and sisters, actually comes because of our sins and not because of our nobility. Isn't it marvelous that Jesus Christ, who did not have to endure that kind of suffering because he was sin-free, nevertheless took upon himself the sins of all of us and experienced an agony so exquisite we cannot comprehend it? I don't know how many people have lived on the earth for sure, but demographers say between 30 and 67 billion. If you were to collect the agony for your own sins and I for mine, and multiply it by that number, we can only shudder at what the sensitive, divine soul of Jesus must have experienced in taking upon himself the awful arithmetic of the sins of all of us--an act which he did selflessly and voluntarily. If it is also true (in some way we don't understand) that the cavity which suffering carves into our souls will one day also be the receptacle of joy, how infinitely greater Jesus' capacity for joy, when he said, after his resurrection, "Behold, my joy is full." How very, very full, indeed, his joy must have been!...
If God chooses to teach us the things we most need to learn because he loves us, and if he seeks to tame our souls and gentle us in the way we most need to be tamed and most need to be gentled, it follows that he will customize the challenges he gives us and individualize them so that we will be prepared for life in a better world by his refusal to take us out of this world, even though we are not of it. In the eternal ecology of things we must pray, therefore, not that things be taken from us, but that God's will be accomplished through us. What, therefore, may seem now to be mere unconnected pieces of tile will someday, when we look back, take form and pattern, and we will realize that God was making a mosaic. For there is in each of our lives this kind of divine design, this pattern, this purpose that is in the process of becoming, which is continually before the Lord but which for us, looking forward, is sometimes perplexing.
It is so hard when you're in the midst of these things. It's so hard to stretch your vision and perspective passed the here and now. So hard. Though He slay me, yet will I trust in Him.
This last month I have been really feeling on top of my life spiritually. I felt like I was finally getting a grasp of everything that has been happening up until this point. And now God threw me a curveball. It's hard to adjust to the pitch when you're already swinging and maybe I foul this one off, but I really think that I can hit it. I have to. There's really no other option.
Don't Worry, I'm Back
You can tune into your regular scheduled programming at inclinedtorecline.blogspot beginning today. I’ll still be busy with all this stuff going on, but I think blogging has been helpful for me to serve as a distraction. Anyway, to my 4-5 loyal readers, I’m back.
Movie Review: Disturbia
Friday, July 13, 2007
Let's Serve Up Some Political Commentary
The other day someone made a comment that she thinks that people are more liberal than they think they are. I find that impossible to believe. Do you want higher taxes? Do you think the government is better at spending your money then you are? Are you for traditional marriage or broadening the definition of marriage to any pair of individuals who love each other? Do you think unions are still effective? How about welfare programs? How about peace through diplomacy? How often has that really worked? Nope, not once. Peace is achieved through strength. See Reagan vs. Communism. Basically, do you think government should assume more control fiscally and personally in your behalf? That’s what you’re talking about when you’re talking about liberalism. It essentially assumes that the government does a better job of teaching your kids in school, taking care of your medical needs, protecting your needs as citizens. I’m not saying it shouldn’t exist, but privatization of programs is one of the best things that has ever happened to many aspects of our lives. Government should serve as a check to all of these things, but not as the provider. The only part of our government that is privatized is the post office, and they actually provide a very high quality service as compared to the other privatized courier services, FedEx, UPS, etc.
Today a great symbol of liberalism is Michael Moore. I have some reading for you. I have mentioned him several times on here, but Jay Nordlinger is great. His article on The Myth Of Cuban Health Care is very enlightening, especially with the recent release of Moore’s film Sicko. Not that health care couldn’t be operated more effectively than it has been in this country, but socialization of the system is not the answer.
Should He Stay Or Should He Go?
*Thanks Laura for pointing out the mistake. Bottom line...she's not worth remembering. See ya!
I still loved that flaming ‘mo they had as the third judge. I’m actually pretty excited to see Hairspray. That will be a fun movie. I’m trying to think if there was anything else interesting to say, but last night’s show was kind of meh for me. Oh well.
Thursday, July 12, 2007
NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!!!!!!!!
Wednesday, July 11, 2007
The DAMN Moment Of The Week
So You Think You Can Dance is back people! Yay! I was really impressed with just about everything on this week's show. I thought the guest judge was awesome. He had great insight, volunteered a lot of great comments. A lot of energy, I think he played off the other two really well. I love that they are incorporating last year's dancers so much into the show. I love the Benji choreographed a dance, and it was awesome. So as far as DAMN moments go...well I'm just going to go with what I thought were the least DAMN worthy because most of the show was so DAMN good. I loved Hok and Jamie's waltz in spite of what the judges said, but they did have a lot of good points to bring up. Oh...this one probably bugged me the most, but what was that sequin mosaic dress that Cat was wearing? And the labeling of Cat's accent as french was a low moment for Dominic. And probably the last one...Danny is such an amazing dancer, but the guy really is a corksoaker. Anyway, here are the clips, I'm going from favorite to least favorite.
Dominic and Sabra Week 4
I really have a soft spot for these two, but I really thought this one was awesome. I love Shane's choreography. I don't ever expect Dominic to do anything other than what he does in the intro each Wednesday night which is spin around, but I really loved how fluid he was in the routine. It really reminded me a lot of Hok's movements. As always, Sabra was awesome. I think she's my favorite girl. She's just spectacular.
Neil and Lauren Week 4
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I love Wade Robson. When you see Neil in the interview how much does he look like Ethan Embry from Can't Hardly Wait? A lot, I tell ya. I really dug on his attire and the make-up job, but that's the feminine side of me. I could have done without the actual scream from Lauren, though.
Pasha and Sara Week 4
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This impressed me a lot more than I thought it was going to. The more I see Sara, the more I like her. She's actually pretty cute, and they're both really strong dancers. It will be interesting, though, to see Pasha out of his element. Of course he's going to do great in this one and the Cha Cha from last week, but what about hip hop?
Danny and Anya Week 4
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These two are awesome. Danny makes incredible use of the whole stage, but seriously, a huge corksoaker. And who thought that Anya would actually look really good as a blonde? I kind of hate how Danny killed her enthusiasm in the post-dance commentaries.
Kameron and Lacey Week 4
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I think the recency effect is why this one is so low. It was really good. However, I too am sensing that lack of pizz-zazz from Kameron. Great dance.
Check This Out
This is really unbelievable. Like the physics of it is so crazy. I'm just so amazed at how the dude is able to transfer all the energy from the height of the jump down to the ground, out through that roll. I wish Greg were reading this blog and he could do the calculation to see what kind of force he generates through that jump...what is it? F=M*A? He is probably about 160 lbs...so maybe 75kg...gravity is equal to 9.86 meters per second per second...jumping from about 30 feet...getting too complicated. I'm impressed that I even got that far. Anyway...it's just crazy.
The Compass
Bathroom Story
And that’s when it happened – for about two minutes I listened to the longest, most powerful stream of wizz that I’ve ever heard. He never stopped to catch his breath, he just went. And right in middle of the toilet, echoes reverberating throughout the bathroom. While he’s starting to pierce the porcelain with his water cannon, he makes a phone call and doesn’t miss a beat. He was as composed in the conversation as if he had taken the call while lying on a raft in middle of his pool at his estate. What’s even more interesting was that it wasn’t a friend that he was talking to, unless his friend likes hearing about renovation projects and where we plan on building and remodeling. It was such an odd experience, I just had to tell you about it. The picture is to scale, complete with the open door on his stall.
Tuesday, July 10, 2007
What's A Gime?
The gym is a funny place, isn't it? Guys go and they'll wear designer crooked hats. Girls will wear almost nothing, or have all their make-up on. Guys will gawk. Girls will go to be gawked at. People watching is fun, but people watching at the gym is really fun because you have people exerting themselves physically and sometimes that's just pure comedy. For instance, one guy today insisted on curling probably about 20 lbs more than what he should normally be doing. As a result, he develops a full body flex that incorporates his back arched awkwardly with a spectacular grimace that makes his neck strain so much that it looks like all those little tendons are about to pop out of the skin. And it's funny when the girls do want the attention from the guys at the gym, and when they don't. Or watching people run on the treadmills. I think I enjoy watching people do exercises all wrong, or with way too much weight. Always good for a laugh or two.
And you know what else I like seeing at the gym? I like seeing fat people. I always think to myself, way to go fat guy! You've finally gotten angry enough at your body to inflict some positive pain. There used to be this African-American couple and the guy was huge, just an amazing physical specimen. And his wife was...just not. But I thought it was so cool to watch him be so supportive of her. It wasn't one of those, "you better get in shape or else," kind of deals. It was genuine. I liked seeing that. It's a funny place. I happened upon it today. I love kick-starting those endorphins. It really is one of my favorite feelings to finish up a work-out and be through all the post-stretching and just be relaxing. Exercise is good.
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Monday, July 9, 2007
What Do I Want To Be When I Grow Up?
That comes courtesy of my buddy Cid. It was a song he wrote our freshmen year at BYU. Maybe he'll even read that and appreciate the shout out. He comes around here occassionally.
Okay...so this is just something that I have been thinking about a lot lately. Today Dave and I were just chatting a little bit about this topic of what we're going to be doing in the future. It's worrisome, let me tell you. My focus from freshmen year at school was to get into graduate school and become a psychologist. I worked hard and made myself a likely candidate for some pretty darn good programs. I picked one of them and for several reasons that I don't really care to go into, that program just has not turned out as I would have hoped. So a couple years and about 30k dollars later, I'm changing course.
Up until about January of 2005 I knew exactly what I was going to do. I even thought I knew who I was going to end up with. I was going to pick a PhD program and finish that up. And when the time came, I was going to go through it with this one person. Then the program wasn't what I had envisioned, so I opted for the masters to finish sooner and do a different track. Then things didn't work out with the girl. And finally things just aren't really working with the program. Now I'm totally shifting gears and it's scary and I have no idea what's going on.
So why share all of this in a public forum? 6 months ago, or even 3 months ago, I think I would range from terrified to apprehensive about the future and what lay in store for me. And yesterday I got kind of stuck teaching the priesthood lesson because the teacher didn't work out, but I'm really grateful that it turned out that way. It went really well and I learned a lot. But in thinking about these things today and I've been in a really pensive, quiet mood all day long, I am realizing again that I am at a point where I don't feel any of that same fear or apprehension that I did even just a couple of months ago. And I bring up the lesson because I thought one line in particular was especially profound and this is the crux of this post - It is not blind obedience, even without total understanding, to follow a Father who has proved himself.
The difference between me now and me six months ago is where my faith is at. Although I am in a sense blind because I have no idea how things are going to turn out in 5 years, 1 year, 6 months, or even 1 month from now, my guide is sure. It took me a lot of heartache and a lot of time to figure that out, but I'm finally there. And this goes back to my post from yesterday about limitations.
Of course it's okay to fret sometimes that maybe what we're doing isn't exactly our favorite thing, or we're unsure about the course that we are travelling on. We can, however, rest assured that He knows perfectly where it is that we need to go. Not only that, but where the best place is to go that will bring us the most happiness. As Lehi told Jacob, behold all things have been done in the wisdom of Him who knoweth all things. As long as our faith is intact, there is no limit to what wonders He can work in our lives. Stay committed, and be faithful and those things will work themselves out. I finally understand that. Again. Hold on and hope on. And sorry if this is too goofy. Like I said I'm just in the frame of mind today where I'm considering all of these things.
From Elder Hales:
Finally, be there. Each of us was there in the Council in Heaven to choose the great plan of happiness we now enjoy. Young men, when you have made a commitment to yourself, your family, your bishop, your employer, be there. When it is time to be in church, at Mutual, or fulfilling a priesthood assignment, be there. When it is time to graduate from school or training programs, be there. When it is time to serve a mission, be there. When the young woman you love most kneels at the altar of God's holy temple, be there (and not as a witness). When your family is gathered in the celestial kingdom, be there. When the Savior waits to greet you as you return with honor from your life on this earth and your Heavenly Father wants to encircle you about in the arms of His love, be there.
Let's Put It To The Studio Audience
I know the choreography to Crazy, Bye Bye Bye, and Give It To You. And I want to take dance classes, in whatever...but not ballet, or tap. It would have to be like hip hop, or even salsa, or swing classes would be fun, ballroom maybe even?
I have no problem talking about feelings and being sensitive
I've cried watching movies before
I love poetry
I like romantic comedies
I am reading Pride and Prejudice and I'm really enjoying it
I have never thrown a real punch
I really enjoy the arts in general - I like literature, theater, paintings, and sculptures
I don't do it that often, but I enjoy cooking
I keep a clean house/apartment
I think the color pink is really cool
I appreciate a nice wardrobe
I can recognize an attractive male, for example I can fully recognize that Andy Roddick is a babe.
Sometimes I like jewelry
I hate killing things. I feel bad even when I step on a snail.
I LOVE sports. I can probably talk sports more thoroughly and more intelligently than 98% of the guys you know
Live Earth Met With Dead Silence
Sunday, July 8, 2007
Movie Review: Die Hard
Does it require a lot of suspension of disbelief? Absolutely. Is it still absurdly sweet? You betcha. I don't know where this one ranks with the other three. I know the first one is the best. I think I liked the third one a lot. So about a tie with Die Hard With A Vengeance? Probably. There are a lot of parts that I'm just like, whatever. And that was either because it was just way absurd, or it just was kind of anti-climactic. For instance, *SPOILER* there is this one bad guy who keeps escaping death and you think is a huge BADASS, but then he just gets totally worked in like two seconds. The fight that Bruce has with the hot asian chick is way more drawn out than with this other dude. But if you want lots of explosions and to see a tough guy in the mold of, well, John McClain, then check this one out.
Congressional Approval At All Time Low
Many republicans hanged their heads low after the elections last October. Democrats celebrated, but that giddiness has been curbed with how sucky they suck at running the country. What I find so interesting about it all is how much you hear about President Bush's approval ratings and how low they are, but not nearly as much about the congressional ratings. What's more, people are more pleased with Bush than they are with Congress. Surprising? It should be.
Oi...Roger Federer Wins Again
Limitations
"The only limitation on you and me is within ourselves"